I have one very special 14 year old daughter.
I always refer to her as Kiddo.
Even back in my teens I figured I would only end up with one child.
I remember telling my mom that and also that if I didn't have a kid by age 30 I didn't want one.
I figured I would be too set in my ways to raise a kid.
Well I had one kid at age 25 and she is totally enough for me.
Not sure why, but some people think people should want kids- in the plural.
If a couple doesn't have any, some people think it's odd.
Those same people seem to think it is odd to stop at one.
When Kiddo was about a year, I was asked by another mother about having more.
I told her that I didn't want anymore.
So, she asked if I had bad labor.
She just looked at me oddly.
It was as if she couldn't fathom me only wanting one.
When I got my tubes tied when Kiddo was 18 months, my mother-in-law tells me "it's OK, it's reversible".
My primary doctor asks me " What happens if your daughter died?"
So, maybe she dies and I can just have another kid and all better?
We went through tough times and when things got better a friend told us that now things were better we could have another kid.
That ship has sailed.
Once when Kiddo was about 4 I thought it might be nice to have another baby.
But, I didn't really.
I am really glad in so many ways I stopped at one.
Kiddo has had so many health problems and I can't even imagine trying to take care of another one or two more or figuring out who can watch them because she had an EEG that day or surgery.
I just don't have the patience for more than one.
I did a good job with the one I got and I am happy.
My one and only.