I am sure that this post may make somebody mad.
But, ya know.
I don't care.
I called someone a turd.
To be precise- I called someone's boyfriend a turd.
I could have said worse.
I care about this person a lot.
I don't know if she ever reads this, but some people she knows do so she may or may not see this.
I was raised in a somewhat dysfunctional family.
I know.
Weren't we all?
Mine didn't involve drinking, beating, or incest.
But part of it did involve never mentioning the monkey in the middle of the room flinging poo everywhere.
Since that time, I have learned that a great many people also don't want to hear bad things about people they are currently dating.
Most of the time, I don't say a word.
Or try not to.
I have lost a friendship by saying something about the boyfriend hitting on me.
How messed up is that?
Be honest and see where it gets ya.
Anyway, I never met this particular boyfriend.
But, I don't like the things I have heard.
I believe he can be nice.
But, he screwed some other chick and I am not going to just be OK with that.
There are other things that tells me he is selfish, but that's the big one.
I will support her, but that doesn't mean I am going to ever like the guy.
She knows I think she needs to leave.
I just don't understand why anyone would stay.
She has her whole life ahead of her and he is just not worthy.
So, I am apparently getting the silent treatment.
So, OK I'm sorry.
I'm sorry your boyfriend's a turd.
There is nothing wrong at all with what you said.
ReplyDeleteOT, thanks. I'm glad you think so.
ReplyDeleteYou're right not to be OK about that. Good for you for speaking up.
ReplyDeleteWow! Maybe turd is too nice of a term for him???
ReplyDeleteSometimes you just can't stop yourself from saying the truth!
ReplyDeleteSeptembermom, Thank you.
ReplyDeletelaughingmom, it is too nice.
Belle, I know.
Ruth, you were honest, and sometimes the truth hurts. I told my sister her fiance at the time was a jerk, and I didn't like him so she didn't invite me to the wedding. They got divorced about 3 years later--and guess what? He's a total turd.
ReplyDeleteSue, I knew she wouldn't like it and I said it anyway.
ReplyDeletei don't know why she stays in that environment; most people don't cheat just one time. i am sure that she has heard this from other people that she should get out. you did the right thing in speaking your mind and the silent treatment won't last forever.
ReplyDeleteA good friend says it like it is whether you like it or not... and you are definitely a good friend to her!
ReplyDeleteLaura, I don't know either. Hopefully she will leave soon.
ReplyDeleteTracy, my mom used to always say that she's get glad in the same pants she got mad in. Very true.
I just wish my honesty wouldn't have made her mad like that.
Oh my! This is a different sort of blog post.
ReplyDeleteLee
Tossing It Out
Lee, Yeah. It was on my mind.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you hit the nail on the head. Albeit a squishy nail.
ReplyDeletePerhaps he's a turd in a punch bowl?
Al, you make me laugh.
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