Monday, May 9, 2011

To Call or Not to Call

In the end, I decided not to.

I didn't call my own mother on Mother's Day.

I know, I know.
I'm a horrible, horrible daughter.

But, I kept wondering whether or not I should and in the end just didn't want to.

I just saw her on Thursday and told her to have a happy Mother's Day.
And if I called, she'd say that I was just out there so she didn't figure I would.
And if I didn't call, she'd tell me when I did talk to her that she was expecting me to call.

I couldn't win no matter what I did so I said screw it and didn't call.

It's not like we really have much to say anyway.

We can go a month without speaking and when we do speak we can talk a few minutes and she'll say
" Well, I don't have anything else to talk about, do you?"
And than she hangs up.
I look at the phone and realize we've only been talking about 5 minutes.

Either that or she will spend the time talking to me about the people that had funerals that she helped out at.
People I didn't even know.

I see all this stuff about how great mothers are and it makes me wonder if people really have such great mothers or they just gloss over all the bad parts.

Honeyman doesn't wish his mother a happy Mother's Day either.

Both our mothers spent so much of our lives being angry people.

My mother always kinda reminded me of Marie Barone without the make-up.
Giving a compliment that really isn't a compliment is her forte.

Ok, that's maybe a bit harsh.
She does have her good moments.

Just many times a little of her goes a long way.


  1. I didn't call my mom either. But then again I haven't spoken to my mom in 20 years.

  2. I don't talk to my mom, either. She has 8 kids and none of us talk to her. I didn't send her a card, call her, or anything. It was just another day to me.

  3. OT, Honeyman is like that with his dad. He said it's like his dad died years ago. We don't even know where he is exactly.

    Sue, it was pretty much just another day for me too-except I got a big ass bag of Hershey's nuggets.

  4. My mom had her moments, too. She passed away 28 years ago (no message there, just a fact), but I don't think I would have called her anyway. My family is just like that. Like you, it would have been just another day. I don't think that makes me a bad person.
    Love those Hershey nuggets! Did the big ass come free or was it an added bonus? ;-)

  5. Al, no definitely not a bad person.
    I think the big ass is a bonus. Buy the party bag and you'll get a big ass. :)

  6. Well... I cannot tell a lie, my mom has always been my best friend... but on the flip side, it's been years since I spoke to my dad and father's day just turns into another sunday for me... so I totally understand!

  7. I'm sorry --- mothers are supposed to be friends. And it makes me sad when I hear about so many that only hurt their kids. So, I am sorry. I know you are a good mom, so this is probably why.

    Have a good week. :)

  8. LOL!
    Wasn't that a vocabulary word? "Morass?"

  9. My mom died a couple of years, so need to call. I did call her almost every year for mother's day, then again, we lived about 9,000 miles away. I'd like some of those Hershey kisses though...

  10. Tracy,
    That is awesome you have a great relationship with your mom. I hope someday Kiddo will think that way of me.

    It is what it is. I have come to terms with it. Sometimes it makes me sad that we aren't closer. But, she is who she is and I am who I am.

    I had to look that up and you are completely correct.One definition is something that hinders, engulfs, or overwhelms.
    Sounds about right. Getting overwhelmed by the size of my ass.

    If I lived that far away, I'd probably make a point to call too. I'll share.


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