Wednesday, February 3, 2016

I Find Your Lack of Empathy Disturbing

People go on and on about common sense and how no one has it anymore.
There has even been an obituary written about it and you can read it here.

But, I have noticed another trend coming along hard and fast.
It's lack of empathy.

The older I get, the more things I realize.
The more I look at things from the other person's point of view.

I think everyone should.
But, they don't.
They choose not to.
Or, it just isn't in them to do so.

Lots of times people forget where they come from.
My father's family was dirt poor, grew up on what is now called welfare.
Many of my cousins and aunts and uncles call anyone getting government assistance lazy.

Sometimes no matter how hard you try, you need help.
You can work you ass off.
Go to college and you still are just making it.

No, I am not saying that being on assistance is good.
Nobody would choose to grovel for help like that.
Maybe a small minority, but not everyone should get lumped in together.

People and debt.
You should never ever use a credit card.
If you can't afford it, you don't need it.
Maybe money can't be saved and the car needs fixed so you can go to work and pay bills.

People make fun of other people that ride in scooters at the store because they don't look sick.
How do you know?
I don't look sick, but drive me around in a car for about a hour and watch me try and walk when I get out. It ain't pretty.
No, I don't use scooters.
I just walk it off.

There is not just one reason that people do things.
Some people want to and some people need to for whatever reason.

I just get tired of the whole " You need to do this" and " That isn't right" thinking and preaching.


  1. Yep, very true. People can't see things another way and think they are right in their justification of others.

    1. Pat, they don't like things pointed out either.

  2. I drive an hour each way to and from work. Then each time I suffer from pain in my knee for good five minutes as I start walking. Then I am fine.
    I agree with you we should not point out at people who suffer. We don't know their lives.

    1. Munir, it sucks to get all stiff and sore from not moving.

  3. Totally agree about the lack of empathy and sympathy that seems to be getting worse and worse. I don't try to judge when out and about and see someone in a scooter or parking in handicapped spaces, etc. I think the world could definitely use a lot more compassion!


    1. Betty, it is scary how it is all going away.

  4. People love to judge, love to mock and love to place someone in some box to help them understand...whatever they are trying to understand. The shame is that many just don't want to understand and don't want to be bothered. I had one lady in my office who "looked" fine but had a bad heart. She had a handicap parking sign and when she parked and started to walk toward the store, a lady stopped her and scolded her for abusing the system all because my client "looked" fine. Thankfully my client told her what was what and my client told me the lady apologized. My client was in tears and that is such a shame

  5. Birgit, I have heard about stuff like that happening a lot. It's not like anyone can go in and get one. A doctor has to say you need it. Very sad.

  6. I have nothing to add but applause for this post. Well done!

  7. I try and see things from a different POV and I always say, "Don't judge" but really, do your pants need to sag down around your butt?

    1. Jeff, I really don't know. Maybe we should ask the next one we see. I find it funny when they wear the belts on the pants keeping them in place around their thighs. Down so far, but no farther.


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